Will You Be Happy For Me If I Never Have Children?

Because I’m not sure I want to have kids.

Since marrying my husband, two years ago, the same questions pop up time and time again at all social functions we attend.

So, any plans for kids?

When will we start hearing the pitter-patter of little feet?

Grandma is getting old, do you think she cares if you don’t have kids?

Well, you are drinking so you must not be pregnant.

That last one blew my mind. Am I under that much scrutiny that my family and friends are using clues to determine if I am pregnant yet!?

It makes me wonder how much my weight is monitored by those around me, and how intensely some of them are looking for a baby bump. I’ve gained quite a bit since getting married. I wonder if they are disappointed to find out its just good eating and not a baby.

As my husband and I age, and as more time passes between our wedding day and the present moment, the more intense this social lens has become. People have become less polite about the question, and more aggressive.

The truth is, my husband and I never really had a firm answer to these prying questions. We are a couple that takes things one day at a time, and neither of us has the urge to procreate…